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I am a genderqueer feminist. White, neuroatypical, butchy, vegetarian, writer, pagan, currently studying childcare. Ze/zir pronouns.
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aber-flyingtiger:

rupeerose:

teafortrouble:

megg33k:

I need feminism because most men’s restrooms still aren’t equipped with baby changing stations. As someone who was married to a man who had sole custody of his young son, I’m hyperaware that feminism means EQUALITY, not female superiority. Feminism should and does support a man’s right to be as much of a parent to his child(ren) as any mother is allowed/expected to be.

This is a constant problem for Mr. Tea and myself. We’ve got twins, so even though I can change one kid on the change table in the ladies’ room, he’s left standing sort of awkwardly in the lobby with a messy child while I change one, come back, and get the other.

Nobody’s suggesting that men aren’t parents, so the lack of change tables goes well beyond ‘gender role reinforcing’ and straight into ‘ridiculous’.

My dad actually almost got kicked out of a mall once for changing my brother in the womens room of a mall. The only reason they didn’t call the cops on him was because the ladies in the room supported him.

I’d never even considered this but I support it

http://alchemy.tumblr.com/post/82723954337

faewings:

forms of transphobia you should watch out for in your speech and thought processes

  • casual cissexism: associating genitalia/body parts with gender, statements like “god i’m such a lesbian i love vaginas” and “guys don’t understand periods at all” or anything that implies people…

http://epochryphal.tumblr.com/post/80445480990/22prairial-hamselves-require-all

22prairial:

hamselves:

Require All Single-Stall Restrooms be Made Unisex. | We the People Petition

I hate to be one of those moral relativism people but this would do very little to address any of the deep seated societal ills that oppress trans/gender nonconforming people and…

Yeah, I’m with Cor here. It makes super sense to make all single-stall restrooms unisex. Safer for a lot of trans people.
The only side effect I can think of is piss. I usually use the women’s room because the men’s room is disgusting. I can live with a little extra gross if that means someone else’s safety.

epochryphal:

prettyboymystic:

Also destroy the idea that to be nonbinary you need to be feminine if you’re amab and masculine if you’re afab.

word.

destroy the idea that masculine and feminine are the only options

destroy the idea that certain things are inherently universally masculine or feminine

prettyboymystic:

Also destroy the idea that to be nonbinary you need to be feminine if you’re amab and masculine if you’re afab.

http://impromptuonedykedanceparty.tumblr.com/post/80186904074/monetizeyourcat-i-really-hate-the-phrase

monetizeyourcat:

i really hate the phrase “equating genitals to gender” because it recapitulates the whole idea that sex is the container and gender is the contents, it just does so in a way that’s supposed to be more affirmative towards the contents (while subtly insisting the container…

mommy-queerest:

pilateswytch:

peppersongg:

paperwhale:

peppersongg:

These are a pair of onesies. For infants. One reads “i’m just a cupcake looking for my stud muffin” and the other reads “girls dig chubby guys”. Heteros really need to stop trying to force their lifestyle on children.

People are really creepy about pushing heterosexuality on babies in general. Like “oh, he loves to smile at girls, he’s such a flirt” and “What a pretty little girl; your daddy is going to have to beat the boys away with a stick”
Like can you not even wait for your infants to gain control of their neck muscles before you start pushing your sexual preferences on them?

oh my gosh this this this this this
so much
it makes me so uncomfortable

OMG yes, so creepy. People are already gendering/sexualizing my fetus. Creeps my shit out.

NO BUT YOU GUYS. The same people who bought my son a “stud” bib and a onsie alluding to an erection/boobs threw a fucking fit when I put milo in a my little pony top that I was forcing homosexuality on him.
WHAT THE FUCKIN FUCKO.


This is really gross. I have noticed this god-awful trend as well.

mommy-queerest:

pilateswytch:

peppersongg:

paperwhale:

peppersongg:

These are a pair of onesies. For infants. One reads “i’m just a cupcake looking for my stud muffin” and the other reads “girls dig chubby guys”. Heteros really need to stop trying to force their lifestyle on children.

People are really creepy about pushing heterosexuality on babies in general. Like “oh, he loves to smile at girls, he’s such a flirt” and “What a pretty little girl; your daddy is going to have to beat the boys away with a stick”

Like can you not even wait for your infants to gain control of their neck muscles before you start pushing your sexual preferences on them?

oh my gosh this this this this this

so much

it makes me so uncomfortable

OMG yes, so creepy. People are already gendering/sexualizing my fetus. Creeps my shit out.

NO BUT YOU GUYS. The same people who bought my son a “stud” bib and a onsie alluding to an erection/boobs threw a fucking fit when I put milo in a my little pony top that I was forcing homosexuality on him.

WHAT THE FUCKIN FUCKO.

This is really gross. I have noticed this god-awful trend as well.

toxicnebulae:

excuse me but that is a MADE-UP gender. the only REal genders are as follows:

  • lizard
  • robot
  • merperson
  • a strange buzzing noise
  • alien, I think
  • an insurmountable feeling of dread

you have to pick one. I’m sorry I don’t make the rules

the sleepover manifesto

pinebark:

my childhood memories of spending the night with friends are all about pain, violence, humiliation. a baseline of casual ridicule i assumed was normal — what i deserved — punctuated by beatings and sexual assaults.

things can’t be different for that kid but they can be different…