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I am a genderqueer feminist. White, neuroatypical, butchy, vegetarian, writer, pagan, currently studying childcare. Ze/zir pronouns.
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We must also raise our sons differently. We are doing grave disservice to boys in how we raise them. We stifle the humanity of boys. We define masculinity in a very narrow way. Masculinity becomes this hard, small cage and we put boys inside the cage.
WE TEACH BOYS TO BE AFRAID OF FEAR. We teach boys to be afraid of weakness, of vulnerability. We teach them to mask their true selves, because they have to be, in Nigeria’s speak, a hard man.
What if both boys and girls were raised not to link masculinity with money. What if the attitude was not that the boy has to pay, but rather, whoever has more should pay. Of course because of the historical advantage, it is mostly men who will have more today; but if we start raising our children differently, then in 50 years, in 100 years, boys will no longer have the pressure to prove their masculinity.
ok so all these guys who are like “men have it hard too!!! we’re expected to be manly and emotionless, we have feelings!!!” do realize that it’s other men who enforce those standards on guys. literally guys created those standards to be more powerful than women. so maybe instead of getting angry at girls for talking about their oppression, realize that you should be fighting with girls against unfair gender expectations and inequality
The experiment mentioned is available in full HERE.