men should take advantage of the lack of dress code rules set for guys and wear mini skirts and tank tops to school every day
OH MY GOD LAST YEAR THE DUDES ON MY CLASS HAVE DONE IT
AND THEY GOT ALL CALLED IN THE PRINCIPAL’S ROOM
BUT THEY DIDNT GOT IN TROUBLE BECAUSE
THEY SAID EXACTLY IT “BUT THOSE RULES ARE ONLY FOR GIRLS”
I’M NOT EVEN JOKING
“gender serves male supremacy” said the white feminist while living on the colonized land of Indigenous peoples who had many matriarchal and gender non-binary (more than two genders) societies that were egalitarian and have faced extreme repression due to white supremacist patriarchy which she benefits from, being a colonizer.
- it’s okay to be genderfluid but usually a girl
- it’s okay to be genderfluid but usually a boy
- it’s okay to be agender one day and bigender the next
- it’s okay to not identify as any specific gender
- it’s okay to keep your gender to yourself
- your gender is your own goddamn business
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I don’t see why people say we need to abolish gender. We need to abolish exploitation and gender exploitation. We should have more genders, more gender expressions…
It’s the people who want to abolish gender are the true essentialists, because they think what it means to be a woman is written in stone. But even in my life time, that has changed a lot, and the new generation will change it again in ways we can’t even imagine.
3 percent of the decision-making in media comes from women. That means 97 percent of how women are portrayed is decided on by men.
Independent Lens, PBS
“Wonder Women! The Untold Story of American Superheroines” (via ihopeyoucontinue4ever)
It also means that 97 percent of how men are portrayed in media are decided on by men. Something to remind MRAs and their ilk of when they complain about the stereotype of men as inept slobs, bad fathers, etc in media and advertising.
Men have the power. So when we men are shat on by the powers that be you don’t get to try and blame women for that.
Reduce cellulite. Be gone dry skin. Vanish unwanted facial hair. Diminish stretch marks. Fade age spots. Eliminate feminine odor. Lose weight. Dissolve belly fat. Erase wrinkles.
I think someone wants me to disappear.
You wanna be Peter Pan. You wanna be that fairy-dusted disaster that conquers Hook and slays pirates, because… that’s what strong boys do. But they gave you a dress. And a name to match. And a lot of pink stuff you’d never play with. You loved action figures just as much a dolls. Yeah, you love dolls, don’t lie.
You don’t walk like a lady though. You flunked ballet class. “You can’t go, it’s boys only”. “Don’t wear swimming trunks, wear a bathing suit. You’re too old to be a tomboy, grow up”. You can’t fly. You never will. Even days when you’re wearing the perfect clothes, people will stare and say, “Is that a girl or a boy?” And you smile to yourself, because today maybe you might just pass.
But then you see their eyes register no facial hair, no knot in your throat, no bulge in your pants. They say it again, louder, tauntingly,
“Is that a girl or a boy ?” This time they know the answer and they just want to see you squirm.
And you do.
And they snicker.
And give you that look that says : “you aren’t human here.”
You’re stuck with the body you’ve got and the gender you don’t. There’s no fairy dust, no flying away, no childhood dream. So you’re doing the best you can, you rock your indecisive parts proudly. But there are days when you can be shattered by a quick tongue. Days when men argue about the lines on your body and then one says, “It’s got tits.”
Because you’re not worthy of any other title.
Days when girls will hate you for what you are, whatever you are. “You aren’t human here”.
But I’ve got tits. So on that day when he said to me, “I don’t care if you’re gay, I’ll still fuck the shit outta you,” I shoulda been willing, right?
But I wasn’t. So I walked faster trying to escape his leering face, the look of malice in his eyes that I’ve seen in so many other men. “I’ll fuck you straight, girl.”
I don’t know how much of a girl I am, but at that moment I wished I had the knuckle strength of men, but I don’t. So I left my pride in this throat. I will try to glue myself back together for tomorrow because there are always gonna be days like this. Days where you have to carry your somber heart like a coffin. Days when you pass, until you slip and let your words fall from your mouth carried by a feminine voice and they know again. Know that you’re not a “him” or a “her,” but something in between. Not human to them. What an abomination ! What a monster ! Why can’t you be normal with your dress, your boyfriend, your virginity ? They wanna paint you the color of smashed hymens. They want you to know that they think you will always be soft like a woman, naked. You will always have the parts of a woman. You, it, with your tell-tale breasts, you will never be one of those strong boys. You are far from Peter Pan, but learn to hold your back like a flagpole. It’s all you’ve got out there.
There’s no Neverland.”
“IT” performed by Kavindu “Kavi” Ade.
There are no words for the emotions that this video causes.
read this on my dash w/o video ten minutes ago, then scrolled down and saw video. cried.
… the socialization of boys regarding masculinity is often at the expense of women. I came to realize that we don’t raise boys to be men, we raise them not to be women (or gay men). We teach boys that girls and women are “less than” and that leads to violence by some and silence by many. It’s important for men to stand up to not only stop men’s violence against women but, to teach young men a broader definition of masculinity that includes being empathetic, loving and non-violent.
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A man seems really interested in being your friend. He acts like he is drawn to you and may describe you as “radiant,” “tranquil,” “beautiful,” or make comments like, “Wow you’re an activist! You care about others!!!!!1” Basically he puts you on a pedestal and doesn’t know you very well.
BUT he also disapproves with a lot of your decisions. ”Why don’t you go back to school now?” ”Why are you quitting that hobby?” He also disagrees with almost all of your opinions and argues with you over stuff that doesn’t really matter, all the while with a smile and he might even laugh a bit as if he thought you were cute and naive for having a different opinion.
Even though he disagrees with almost everything you say, he still acts like you walk on air. Why?
This has happened to me multiple times and I hate it and I wonder if other women and non-binary folks have this experience. :/
As a trans woman, not many things give me a headache the way the entire concept of passing does. Passing is the idea that if a trans woman (or any person who is presenting as a woman) looks, dresses and acts a certain way, people won’t be able to tell they are anything other than a completely “normal” woman. If you look at online trans communities or forums, you’ll find tons of tips on how to pass better – everything from hair removal tips to workouts to how to walk and sit more femininely.
All of this presupposes that there is only one right way to look like and be a woman. And it’s infuriating. On the one hand, whenever I go out in public or post pictures online, a part of me is deathly afraid that I’ll be insulted or worse. I desperately want to be accepted as the woman I am. On the other hand, I hate that in order to feel safe, I’m expected to fit into the very narrow box that is labeled “woman.” Tips on how to pass always seem to say that you should avoid building muscle mass and avoid wearing clothes and makeup that are too costumey, that you should try to hide your shoulders and soften your features. Trans women are often told that if we want to pass, we have to try our hardest to be petite, soft, have just the right amount of femininity, and not stand out too much. But what if I want to be a different kind of woman? What if I want to look like Grace Jones or Kate Moennig? What if I want to look like Beth Ditto or Dolly Parton? They’re all cis women; don’t they pass?
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