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I am a genderqueer feminist. White, neuroatypical, butchy, vegetarian, writer, pagan, currently studying childcare. Ze/zir pronouns.
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The Point is not to Interpret Whiteness but to Abolish it (via ninjabikeslut)
other folks (bad-dominicana is one example) have been posting a lot about it too- about the privilege white misandrists hold and ignore
like, obviously it’s a privilege to be able to talk about cutting people up, or like that one girl, hit some random person in the street for saying a rape joke- as others pointed out, it’s a bit rich to have the queer/feminist ~community~ celebrate that when you consider what cece mcdonald is going through. womyn and non-binary people of color do not have the same space to like plot the violent demise of men. it’s dangerous to even type that shit on your blog for so many people.
and then there’s the fact that they don’t specify that it’s white men who are really to blame for all of the sexism men of color perpetuate because of how whiteness informs the ways they are allowed to be men/allowed to be valid humans. isn’t it the definition of privilege to not even think about all of the men of color when white feminists talk about hating men and wishing them dead. clearly, white people have been pretty successful in killing men of color (or otherwise control their bodies- prisons, military, etc). and that’s just in the states, i’m not getting into colonialism and global domination of people of color. also like in this white feminist utopia where men no longer exist… there’d still be white supremacy. the white womyn would be done with that whole “liberation” thing (cough white gay men) and leave poc in the dust. i seriously doubt patriarchy would be able to withstand the downfall of white supremacy for long. idk i’m just regurgitating the ideas of others wiser and more articulate than i, but i have always been wary of the way that white people get to be so vocal and open about hating men. it’s totally real for privileged people to take on a more “inflammatory” role or whatever, as long as they constantly center the conversation back on those who they hold power over. as long as white people acknowledge their privilege in even being able to say this shit, let alone act on it. that’s what allyship looks like, and it’s clearly not happening.
tl;dr- who are white misandrists helping but other white people?
ugh god my friends are flooding my dash with brilliant things today that make me uncomfortable in the best of ways. thanks for writing this lex.
jokes tags getting real yo. Another instalment of: people on tumblr say really really fucking important and eye-opening shit.
Not disagreeing ‘cause like, I know what limpwristpointedfist said is true and powerful, but are we not supposed to celebrate womyn who punch misogynist men making rape jokes? Because I think it is entirely okay and possible to applaud a womyn for doing that and be considerate of what Cece is going through and be active in that as well.
I can see the privilege it is to be a misandrist but I still don’t really get the “White people created sexism/transphobia/homophobia” Like, I don’t see how that’s supported and if POC violate womyn are we supposed to say “damn those white people ruining everything”? Idk, this is something intricate and complicated and I don’t know how to sort it out. I’m still a misandrist, still a huge hater of white men not identifying their privilege and still routinely insulted and disrespected by black men as often as white men so idk.
white women who eat, sleep, live and breathe around white men more regularly because they are white and spend more time with white men in general never get disrespected and treated as sexist by Black men as they are by white men. it’s fucking impossible. check yourself bitch.
Researchers say this is the first study to look at how colorism affects black women and how long they may spend in jail. Part of the reason may simply come down to how pretty jurors consider a defendant to be, and that being light-skinned and thin (also a factor studied in the research) are seen as more attractive, says Lance Hannon, co-author of the Villanova study.
More evidence, for those still unconvinced of lightskin privilege. This shit is real. With real world impacts.
when people say anger is scary and not a valid emotion. or not useful. or just pointless to sit with. fuck you, my best posts are written when i am absolutely irate. for some reason, my fingers just start dancing. i do things to prevent my anger from coming out like this and i have learned to take that passion and harness it when i am not irate to still write and express myself. but i am my least censored and my most raw when i am angry and i have every right to express that shit. just reflecting on all those people in my life who have told me to not get so upset about things that affect my life, living and the people i love.
For real. Fuck people who say we have no right to be angry or it’s too much for them to handle.
Before I post more photos…
Let’s talk about the WHITE DERAILING ASSHOLES AT THE RALLY.
THIS RALLY WAS ABOUT JUSTICE FOR TRAYVON MARTIN,
JUSTICE FOR THE BLACK AND BROWN BODIES PILING UP IN OUR STREETS.
THIS RALLY WAS ABOUT RACIAL PROFILING AND THE DISCRIMINATION PEOPLE OF COLOR FACE.
What the fuck is wrong with you and what possessed you to come down to Union Square and talk about YOURSELVES.
I’m looking at YOU Occupy Wall Street.
I’M LOOKING AT YOU AND YOUR HUGE FUCKING BANNER AND YOUR FAKE ASS MIC CHECKS, TRYNA GET US TO TALK ABOUT YOUR UPCOMING EVENTS.
I’m glad you didn’t succeed and people sideeyed the shit out of you.
A Black child is DEAD.
His mother’s voice broke as she thanked us for bringing her tragic loss into the spotlight.
HOW DARE YOU COME OUT HERE AND USE A BLACK CHILD’S DEATH TO PROMOTE YOUR CAUSE, A CAUSE THAT HAS NEVER INCLUDED PEOPLE OF COLOR.
This is about capitalism?
This is about classism?
WHY THE FUCK DON’T YOU TALK ABOUT WHO’S AT THE BOTTOM OF THE SOCIOECONOMIC LADDER AT YOUR EVENTS?
Miss me with that bull.
And you motherfuckers wonder why we ain’t never down there picketing with you.
Perhaps not actively.
But for many queer and trans* folks, our families are straight and cis. We are literally forced to live with people who have privilege over us for 18 years.
This is also the case for some adopted people, some people with disabilities, and a number of other identities.
How do we console ourselves, when our parents, grandparents, foster parents, aunts, unlces, siblings, guardians - when our family is privileged in a way we will never be?
How do we tell people who love us that we can’t always be around them, because being around them can make us feel even more marginalized?
How do we come to terms with the fact that our family may never be able to understand what we go through? That they might participate in the systems that keep us marginalized?
This. This so hard.
Every time you think, “OMG, I had no idea, that’s terrible,” take it as a sign that you need to educate yourself on that topic.