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I am a genderqueer feminist. White, neuroatypical, butchy, vegetarian, writer, pagan, currently studying childcare. Ze/zir pronouns.
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“…If you find a girl who reads, keep her close. When you find her up at 2 AM clutching a book to her chest and weeping, make her a cup of tea and hold her. You may lose her for a couple of hours but she will always come back to you. She’ll talk as if the characters in the book are real, because for a while, they always are.
You will propose on a hot air balloon. Or during a rock concert. Or very casually next time she’s sick. Over Skype.
You will smile so hard you will wonder why your heart hasn’t burst and bled out all over your chest yet. You will write the story of your lives, have kids with strange names and even stranger tastes. She will introduce your children to the Cat in the Hat and Aslan, maybe in the same day. You will walk the winters of your old age together and she will recite Keats under her breath while you shake the snow off your boots.
Date a girl who reads because you deserve it. You deserve a girl who can give you the most colorful life imaginable. If you can only give her monotony, and stale hours and half-baked proposals, then you’re better off alone. If you want the world and the worlds beyond it, date a girl who reads.
Or better yet, date a girl who writes.“
Why does this slop keep popping up on my dash? It’s frustrating to see people so taken in by it. This whole dissertation by Rosemarie Urquico is pretentious, condescending, and sometimes even laughable and it is insulting ultimately to women who read. This is just a wisely cherry picked portion of an entire essay what really amounts to a fetishization of a TROPE. Of the special snowflake pixie girl who reads. Like…women who read are a rare special commodity.
Don’t believe me, here are some gems;
“Date a girl who reads. Date a girl who spends her money on books instead of clothes”
Right, because buying clothes is synonymous with the ability to read and appreciate books. In this world a woman can’t be both? She can only be bookish OR materialistic. That’s some bullshit.
“Let her know what you really think of Murakami. See if she got through the first chapter of Fellowship. Understand that if she says she understood James Joyce’s Ulysses she’s just saying that to sound intelligent. Ask her if she loves Alice or she would like to be Alice.”
Yea, test her. Because a woman who reads is such a suspicious creature in the first place that you need hard evidence.
“Lie to her. If she understands syntax, she will understand your need to lie. Behind words are other things: motivation, value, nuance, dialogue. It will not be the end of the world.
Fail her. Because a girl who reads knows that failure always leads up to the climax. Because girls who understand that all things will come to end. That you can always write a sequel. That you can begin again and again and still be the hero. That life is meant to have a villain or two.”
Fucking really? REALLY? Yes, justify your wrongdoings and offenses by explaining to special snowflake mcpixie that well, there is conflict in books and well that’s so romantic so all is okay. I cheated on you, dear, yes. But there was also cheating in that one shitty Hailey Abbott novel, so hear me when I say “that’s life” hohoho or should I snicker “that’s literary happenstance”! I mean, what did you expect? It occurred in a book, so it’s charming that I cheated and you must understand because you are a special snowflake girl book reader. Sounds like top notch manipulation.
Just read the entire prose and as always don’t just take my word for it. I wouldn’t suggest consumption of any type of liquids as you proceed though.
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You know, I had never thought of it like that. All I thought about was that the quote sounded white girl centric and I like to read but not that stuff. But you right. lol
Hey, well-known book blogs that reblog this shit - i hope one of your books falls into a toilet.
plus, y’all, you know the general sentiment is “date a girl who reads, not a SLUT.”
hmm. :I false dichotomies.
Reblogged for rad commentary.